Dating Detours – Episode 20: Widowhood, Secret Groups & Surviving Modern Dating 💔🔥

Dating after nearly 30 years of marriage is not for the weak.

In this raw and unfiltered episode of Dating Detours, Marcus sits down with Rebecca — a longtime friend’s mom, a military veteran and widow who went from a highly structured military marriage to the chaos of modern dating apps.

Rebecca shares how she met her late husband in the military, navigated the infamous military “chit” process to get married, and dealt with international security clearance issues simply for falling in love. After his unexpected passing, she opens up about jumping back into dating too quickly, rebounding without healing, and ending up in a toxic relationship fueled by grief and trauma dumping.

The conversation dives deep into:

• The controversial “Are We Dating the Same Guy?” Facebook groups

• The difference between safety, shaming, and petty callouts

• Why sexual compatibility is a non-negotiable deal-breaker

• Ethical non-monogamy, poly curiosity, and modern dating labels

• Predatory dating behavior targeting successful “empty nesters”

• Rebecca’s Five-Text Rule — and why she refuses to chase anyone

This episode isn’t dating advice wrapped in pretty packaging.
It’s honest, uncomfortable, funny, and painfully relatable.

If you’ve ever loved deeply, lost suddenly, or opened a dating app and questioned everything — this episode is for you.

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